Reclaim Yourself from a Narcissist

I used to say “I feel like the stump at the end of The Giving Tree” (by Shel Silverstein).

Do you relate to this feeling?

My stepfather planted the seed that I was not good enough. I grew up feeling responsible for his poor behavior. After years of emotional abuse, I received an email: I am suing you.

He threatened to sue me for the price of a car he helped me finance when I was 16. Apparently, I still owed him, despite the fact that I worked while I was in high school to pay off the $3,000 loan in full. This email came about five years ago. I’m 51.

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I felt his lack but mistakenly accepted it as my own. Then I took that feeling into other relationships. Until that email solidified a growing realization: I will never be able to make up for his scarcity in character. And while I love him, I had to love myself more. So, I made the difficult decision to severe the relationship and after another year of scathing emails (that I painfully ignored), he stopped writing.

Narcissists will never stop taking because their sense of entitlement is endless. So, you have to find the courage to not give.

My friend, Naomi, shares a similar story. Rather than writing the Narcissist back (who will never get it), we choose to write the Empath. This article is for you.